1. If the old methods have obviously not worked well, then resolve to change the way you communicate with your spouse.
2. Avoid spontaneity. Think about your goals before you speak or act. You may even want to write down the key phrases that will be most effective in discussing the issue. Use neutral words that are solution-oriented, rather than words that accuse or blame.
3. Calm yourself before speaking. Take deep breaths. Step outside the room and walk around. Try to see the issue from your spouse’s perspective and ask yourself if this is worth added stress or anger. Will you care about this issue in two years?
4. Be fair. Focus on the issue and its solutions, not the person.
5. Understand. Before you jump to conclusions about what your spouse means, ask questions to make sure you understand him or her correctly.
6. Be Polite. Allow your spouse or his or her attorney to completely finish a thought before you begin to speak.
7. Show Empathy. Simple statements like, “I can see why that would upset you,” can make other people feel heard, which can make them more receptive to whatever you’re going to say next.

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